The ‘VOW’ Factor
Weddings! When I hear this word, the chatter of people, tunes of the clarinet, the smell of wet henna, flowers, clinging bangles, sheepish smiles across the distance, stolen glances between the bride and the groom and hope, faith to a happy journey that is to last for eternity. A complete Bollywood scene!
During the ceremony, in any culture, there is a tradition of vows. In older days, the priest would just let go mentioning the vows part and skip towards the end in Hindu Tradition. But as time passed and as the people have actually started to believe, those long-gone traditions have returned. The couples these days have taken this ‘VOWING’ quite seriously, being as important as one of these ceremonies I can say. I will share what they shared…
# Groom’s Side
Vow 1. I will always love you (Duh! is it not obvious!)
Vow 2. I will always speak the truth and never judge (first lie – they judge)
Vow 3. I will take your stand and treat as an equal not anything else (show it and we shall see)
Vow 4. I will give you space (by space I mean you in the kitchen, me in front of the TV)
Vow 5. I will share all my thoughts with you and our relationship will be transparent (so much so that I shall keep my personal stuff transparently invisible to you)
Vow 6. You will have freedom, no compromise (The entire marriage will be a compromise)
Vow 7. I will always be by your side (In bed, lying next to you)
# Bride’s side
Vow 1. I will never be jealous of your female friends or stop you from meeting them (Because I am going to murder them if they don’t stop, automatically)
Vow 2. I will always consider your vote (But it does not mean I will follow what you say)
Vow 3. You will be my first priority (Right after my job, my gal pals but before the typical household chores for my in-laws)
Vow 4. I will make sure to not waste money on pointless shopping (But everything is important)
Vow 5. I will not nag if you go out with your friends 5 times a week (Just block them from all your social media and contact)
Vow 6. I will not gossip about the third party, that I have heard (Sharing of information is essential though)
Vow 7. I will let you watch whatever you want on T.V (after I go to sleep or when I am not at home)
These vows were hilarious. Don’t you think! I mean vows are basically promises. So, you cannot promise anything you think is right or just anything for the sake of it. Promise something which is meaningful like,
Vow 1. Our love may not always be the same, but our respect and understanding shall be.
Vow 2. The moment I have second thoughts about this relation, I will be honest and you will be the first to know.
Vow 3. Child care is not only your duty because the kid is ours together and the same goes for food, household chores, and jobs.
Vow 4. The quality time shall be with you rather than my friends but also, they are important and I will not choose between the two nor will I make you choose.
Vow 5. I will listen without argument and then shall understand or make you understand; and at times you also make me understand.
Vow 6. Little things can be expected, little efforts to show some affection from us both but on busy days it’s okay to forget birthdays and anniversaries.
Vow 7. I will be the best friend to know you better rather than a better half; best friends have no secrets and so won’t we.
These vows are not emotional but very practical and that involves just the two people who are sharing them. In today’s busy life it is not only one person to expect an extra input but both. So, the ‘Vow Factor’ should have meaning than just wooing by fake words
